First pregnancy - super scared.

[NicShaf]

JillianDudo,
Congratulations! Hope all is going well with you. I just wanted to tell you how much better this thread made me feel. I am 6 weeks pregnant, been off medication for about a year, and I've been super scared about what the future holds for me and my baby. I talked to my Rheumy a couple months ago, before I found out I was pregnant, and he seemed optimistic about my ability to have a healthy pregancy in the near future. Then, God sent my husband and I a little surprise! My GP was very optimistic as well when I saw her last week and told her I was pregnant, which eased my racing thoughts a little bit. I have been assigned a high risk OB, along with a regular OB, but haven't seen any of them yet. I have been trying not to stress about circumstances I cannot control, and reading what everyone here had to say really helped. Just another reason I love this forum.
Hope all is well with all of you!
Happy Holidays!
xoxo
Nicole Shaffer

[JillianDudo]

Congrats! Its definitely exciting and scary at the same time. I'm 29 weeks now and so far so good. I ended up going out of state to UCSF for my perinatalolgist, and she's amazing! She wants me to deliver at 38 weeks regardless if the pregnancy is perfect or not. She said the last two weeks of pregnancy are very hard on your kidneys and there's no reason to stay pregnant at that point because it's considered full-term. So I'm looking at the beginning of February - very happy and anxious and nervous about the possibility of a flare afterwards. But, so far all is good.

Good luck and congratulations!

[im so blessed]

To both of you you can do this!!! I was dxed at 16 and had to fairly healthy pgs .one at 22 and one at 26. I had minor flares around 4 months post delivery but every bit worth my healthy little boys. I did have preeclampsia, but docs no how to handle that. At least GOOD docs do Go to your appointments, get plenty of rest. Stay away from salt and drink lots of water AND have fun being pregnant!!!!

[NicShaf]

im so blessed,
Thanks for the encouraging words and sharing your experience. It's always nice to hear those things.

[Mel4]

Just checking in on the pregnant ladies?! How Are things going?


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[JillianDudo]

I'm doing good! I've got 10 days left until they induce me. My blood pressure and all my lab values have remained stable - for that I'm so thankful. I have a plan for after birth to get back on my meds and routine labs often to make sure I'm not going to flare, but if I do, we'll catch it early.

[Mel4]

Great news!! Thanks for sharing and keep us posted.. I know those last days are crazy!!


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[Velma]

I am so glad you wrote in.. because when I found out I was pregnant I was in remission too and was taking the Methotrexate and bactrim etc as a maintenance.. but wha-laaa surprise pregnancy. Okay first of all get a new doctor. My doctor literally threw his hands in the air and said "this cannot be!" and stormed from the room. I found a new doctor and OB specialists who followed me week by week and said the option was always there for termination but the fetus was perfect. I had my first ultra sound at 22 days and her little heart was just pounding away! I just knew in my heart that God had given me this baby and I had to try. I just HAD to try or I would live with the what if's for the rest of my life. I also knew in my heart that there would be issues to deal with but personally I was not one to give up easily and if there was a chance to have a healthy baby then it was worth the risk.

I am not going to lie to you.. the doctor was right it will be a "nail-biter" but if you do your homework and stay on top of what is happening to your body, to your baby, and what could happen then that will give you peace of mind to make the decisions you need to make. Shoot, my own mother in law gave me grief every time I saw her about stopping the pregnancy but I just prayed it through and with every appointment things were good and I ended up giving birth 10 days early with a perfect baby girl almost 16 years ago. I did not flare for 7 years after she was born either.

Doctors cannot fortell the future. If your labs look good and the baby is fine then why not try? Take one day at a time and stay on top of how you feel and your labs. Things might get a little harder as time goes by but with a supportive team of doctors you will get through this. Find a good team of doctors who will help you. Do your homework and know what to expect but say in your heart.. God gave me this baby for a reason.. and I will not give up without a fight.

I have been in your shoes, sweetie, it is hard but I will be praying for you and your baby. Please keep me up to date. Good luck. V.

[Velma]

Nicole you are a living example of what I posted just a minute ago.. having a supportive team of doctors will make a world of difference. I went through the same thing as you and did not flare for 7 years after having my baby. Just stay on top of your labs and doc appointments, ask questions, and do your own research. Don't let what they tell you be the final answer. Push them for more help and more advice if you need it. After all they are being paid to help you. Make them do it! I love this forum too! Take care and congrats on the baby news!