Thanks, Jacquie. Yes, it will be high on my list of things to do when I get there; hire some help for them if they haven't already done so, especially my parents as my mom won't be able to go downstairs or use the washer and dryer (which is downstairs and requires bending). They will likely need to pay privately. They're retired, my mom is a spender and my dad has a 'broke' mindset due to growing up poor with 11 siblings. So it's a tug-of-war, but I'm as strong-willed as he, so I will loosen his grip on the bank card. I'll start by having someone come in and do all the things that haven't been getting done. He'll be so relieved he'll realize what a good use of funds it is, and that it doesn't cost that much. Someone who's good at what they do can accomplish a lot around the house in a few hours. Certainly more than I can these days. And don't worry, I won't and can't get overloaded. As soon as I reach my limit I start feeling so crappy I have to sit or lie down and not do anything else until I've rested... So that's what I do! Last night I fed my son dinner 1.5 hours later than usual because I hit the wall right before I was going to start making dinner. I had to lie down for an hour, then try again. (Hubby had to work a bit later than usual; normally when this happens he just takes over). Sometimes when that happens I just order in or stick a frozen pizza in the oven, but he was looking forward to turkey tacos and he seldom wants to eat actual food... He's a chicken fingers and fries and white-everything kind of kid. So didn't want to miss the opportunity of getting in a good balanced meal that he actually wanted to eat! I'm noticing more and more that I can't do much in the evening. So I'm just planning around being home and not doing much in the evening. If hubby is busy or too tired to clean the after-dinner mess, I just leave it until morning when I get a few new spoons hopefully. Still learning to let go of my idea of how things should be and how much I should be able to accomplish. It's a work in progress. The hardest thing is to remember not to compare myself to others. FB and pinterest can be very self-defeating. I try to remember the saying I've seen on one or the other about not comparing your life to someone else's highlight reel.
Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, she became a butterfly.
- English proverb.
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