Hi Inge,
I am sorry that it took me some to relate to your posts. (being too busy this week).
I think that you are an amazing mother. you do whatever you can, with love and caring. please don't be tough with yourself. your stress is enormous. it is really too much just think about all the things that you handle ar once, and be amazed of yourself and also proud. you are much more strong and good then you think you are. sending lots of hugs....