Barbara, it's so sad to read about what your brothers did to you. I see that here and there, people seeming good, well-meaning, and easy to get along with, and then they just shut down that part of them for selfish reasons. And they won't go back because they can't admit they were wrong. I think it must take a toll on them, too. I'm so glad you have your kids and grandkids to even things out. And now you have us, too!

DeDe, I'm still thinking of you in all of this; you may be coping better now, but changes never happen overnight. Please keep us posted on how things are going!