Tom
07-07-2015, 04:31 PM
Been out for a while! Back in March I was talking about de winterizing the camper and going to the camp ground.
My wife says she wants to clean it and stock it before we go but its still too cold to camp according to her, but not me!
In early April. I have plans to move a fence line, 6 post and since Im on oxygen, the sons, I have 4 grown, said they would put the fence in for me when they can get together. I wanted a shelter for my meat smoker and since my wife didn't want to get the camper ready until it warmed little more, I went out and tried to do what used to be normal things for me!
I decided to dig post holes!
I got 1 dug in after nearly 2 hrs. of digging and resting, I set one post at 40 inches deep!
I went to digging the second post and it took me 3 days to get 36 inches and my wife met me at the house door on the third day and asked what I thought I was trying to do? I told her that I was digging post holes for the fence and smoker shelter! I in turn, asked her What she was doing and she said she was going to clean the camper and I should come in and rest with the oxygen ! I just smiled and complied for an hour but shed some tears after she was away from the house when later I went out to back the truck up to the camper!
I had an appointment with my oncologist that week and I told him what I had done and that the pulmo told me to stop working because I have passed the stage where my lungs can't keep up and to walk for exercise! Those that know me knows that I am independent and when I want something done I want it done now, and my way! The oncologist looked at my chart and saw the osteoporosis and couldn't believe that I didn't break my shoulders while stabbing that post hole digger in the ground!
He knows me best I guess because he treated me for stage 4 cancer and never stopped doing my life as I pleased!
Now here's the truth of the thing, I am a self starter and like my independence but I know and learn each day that my life has changed!
Since 2000 when I broke my back and then in 2006 when I started my cancer journey to the diabetes and then eventually Wegeners with my lungs destroyed, I try to find my new normal everyday!
I have told the Drs that I want total honesty with regard to my over all health and my COPD and have asked how long I could expect with the best case scenario. Im told 10 years may not be possible but with no crystal ball there is no answer except he doesn't think in 10 years I will have an appreciative quality of life at the the stage Im at!
So with that thought, I still do what I want every day and when asked about if a particular thing is normal, I just say that this moment is normal for me and I have no other normal that I recall because its been so long since I was healthy and un inciumbered by WEGENERS,or cancer side effects or a broken back and no diabetes!
So at age 59, I still cry for maybe 5 minutes and the wife and I talk when I know that my lung disease has advanced, I then move on to my next normalcy! I love life but when my time comes, I will be ready in body and spirit and hope its many years from now!
this is an off topic forums so I need to share to relieve some stress and I cant lie and say there is none!
Everyone live in the moment!
My wife says she wants to clean it and stock it before we go but its still too cold to camp according to her, but not me!
In early April. I have plans to move a fence line, 6 post and since Im on oxygen, the sons, I have 4 grown, said they would put the fence in for me when they can get together. I wanted a shelter for my meat smoker and since my wife didn't want to get the camper ready until it warmed little more, I went out and tried to do what used to be normal things for me!
I decided to dig post holes!
I got 1 dug in after nearly 2 hrs. of digging and resting, I set one post at 40 inches deep!
I went to digging the second post and it took me 3 days to get 36 inches and my wife met me at the house door on the third day and asked what I thought I was trying to do? I told her that I was digging post holes for the fence and smoker shelter! I in turn, asked her What she was doing and she said she was going to clean the camper and I should come in and rest with the oxygen ! I just smiled and complied for an hour but shed some tears after she was away from the house when later I went out to back the truck up to the camper!
I had an appointment with my oncologist that week and I told him what I had done and that the pulmo told me to stop working because I have passed the stage where my lungs can't keep up and to walk for exercise! Those that know me knows that I am independent and when I want something done I want it done now, and my way! The oncologist looked at my chart and saw the osteoporosis and couldn't believe that I didn't break my shoulders while stabbing that post hole digger in the ground!
He knows me best I guess because he treated me for stage 4 cancer and never stopped doing my life as I pleased!
Now here's the truth of the thing, I am a self starter and like my independence but I know and learn each day that my life has changed!
Since 2000 when I broke my back and then in 2006 when I started my cancer journey to the diabetes and then eventually Wegeners with my lungs destroyed, I try to find my new normal everyday!
I have told the Drs that I want total honesty with regard to my over all health and my COPD and have asked how long I could expect with the best case scenario. Im told 10 years may not be possible but with no crystal ball there is no answer except he doesn't think in 10 years I will have an appreciative quality of life at the the stage Im at!
So with that thought, I still do what I want every day and when asked about if a particular thing is normal, I just say that this moment is normal for me and I have no other normal that I recall because its been so long since I was healthy and un inciumbered by WEGENERS,or cancer side effects or a broken back and no diabetes!
So at age 59, I still cry for maybe 5 minutes and the wife and I talk when I know that my lung disease has advanced, I then move on to my next normalcy! I love life but when my time comes, I will be ready in body and spirit and hope its many years from now!
this is an off topic forums so I need to share to relieve some stress and I cant lie and say there is none!
Everyone live in the moment!